I am writing this while listening to a programme on radio 4 on ‘me-time’; ways to value reflection, conserve the personal battery or ’switch on the personal screen-saver’. There is much written on self-esteem and reflection, and clearly we need to know ‘who we are’, to value ourselves and to take care of our own physical and mental well-being. However, there is a dark side to all this, and that is the self-indulgence and selfishness of getting ‘locked within’. Cherish and value who you are, don’t denigrate, or decorate it. Stand outside yourself and stop ‘musterbating’. Know what you want, be clear about it, and honest with yourself and others. Don’t be afraid to say ‘no’. Give yourself headroom, and breathe. Then look outside. Get on with it. The happiest people I know are those whose focus isexternal. They look outside themselves and are concerned with others. They do stuff. Find out what makes you authentic and real. Love what you have, then give time and attention to others. As the Buddha said ‘there is no way to happiness: happiness is the way’. So crack on and get happy. Happy Christmas.